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Carlin, David R. Jr.
counselors, social workers, teachers,...
...As for blacks and Shower Problem...
...who advances such an argument...
...families among its members...
...When we come to believe, for will eventually be solved...
...They feel safer, and when OF SEVERAL MINDS David R. Carlin, Jr...
...And the in- are multiplying in the rural counties of the Large shelters, especially night shelters, vestment in time, money, and effort is very surrounding area...
...parent, nuclear family...
...If of the eyes" solution...
...These do not threaten neigh- Chiefs snapping towels at him...
...the first year it was found that the house Congregation in supporting Carrie Simon As I write this the Washington, D.C...
...Granting increased legitimacy to homo- Look at the "deadbeat dads," who father In large measure, I believe, this oppo- sexuality, cohabitation, single-parenthood, children and then take a hike, running sition is based on concern with the state divorce, out-of-wedlock births, etc., does away from the most fundamental of all of marriage and family in America...
...Was it an honest soap search...
...surmise what dangers a young and preg- the military has to do Perhaps instead we could try a "custody nant woman braves when she must wan- mainly with showers...
...Even if legitimacy to homosexuality is to strike look around...
...1 12: 9 April 1993 Commonweal...
...they make all the difference in Independently they bought a home, where House, our neighbors from Saint Colum- the lives of those they take in because they they have taken in 170 different homeless ba's, our friends from the Anne Frank are homes...
...it possible that each parish could do as caring environment for their babies...
...And vated...
...I speak converse accident...
...tutions...
...to believe it does is to com- to whites does not delegitimize whites...
...children on average are better off in two- norm is precisely what was aimed at durWrong...
...touched, the question would arise as to tal sex, even among adolescents...
...he or she has trouble receiving s far as I can tell from if we let every sailor have a private showwelfare, Social Security, or unemployment news reports, the nation- er and dressing room, we'll have to douchecks...
...ten weeks after losing jobs and home Carrie Simon House has provided a new Every parish could support such an effort, (Catholic Standard, March 4,1993...
...Many of us make condo little for the homeless except shield them significant-it takes a $45,000 contribu- tributions of money, food, and clothing...
...Isn't start for fourteen young mothers and a she said...
...Department of Human Services has begun and their babies at a time...
...birth rate: 25 percent of all births...
...parent families...
...hence they exist in a zero-sum enDifficult as the problem is, I'm sure it 6. Approval, sometimes verging on en- vironment...
...Look at the out-of-wedlock only protected privacy but made soldiers of marriage and the nuclear family...
...and Sharon Murphy, a Catholic-Jewish couple, and the parents of four children...
...After all, if nuns were der city streets all day...
...But we are very for this reason that so many of the home- icated volunteer time from lawyers, far from doing what must be done...
...If the Clinton thusiasm, for the single-parent family...
...suggestion is that they go home and reahead...
...My best their lost bar of soap while staring straight 1. No-fault divorce laws...
...Yet for the past quarter century we Americans have been engaged in a relentless assault on this preFOR INFORMATION ABOUT THE FRANCISCAN FRIARS cious institution...
...We have behaved like THE ATONEMENT Othello's base Indian, who threw away a ANO THEIR ASSOCIATES, pearl richer than all his tribe...
...and delegitimizing that, metaphorically of course...
...than 60 percent of black births...
...Experimenting To date, the most effective mechanism the human race has invented for carrying out with tradition this child-rearing task is the married, twosince 1895...
...Or when an old and we can only solve the Great Shower able to keep custody of the eyes for cenfrail man or woman must do so...
...but Shower Problem, everyone will be ready mit what the logicians call "the fallacy of it certainly delegitimizes the norm that says to welcome gays with open arms...
...Because the controversy in fact has rel- Thus the opponents argue: to give moral If this abstract answer isn't convincing, atively little to do with showers...
...El less prefer sleeping on heating grates, in packing boxes, under elevated highways, or in culverts...
...consider what they are saying...
...The most important long-term task faction of reducing the legitimacy of marriage I hardly know what to say to someone ing any society is raising kids, getting them ready to take over the never-ending work of maintaining and improving the world...
...counselors, social workers, teachers, etc...
...But if another foot was 3. Widespread acceptance of premari- But let me try to answer anyway...
...over 80 perwho oppose letting gays in the military Someone will say all this is nonsense...
...I'll bet in chief could issue a strict order requirshelters into transitional ones...
...could best provide for only four mothers House would seem to bear her out...
...feet, you say...
...Look at the divorce ting gays into the military is one more step is not a zero-sum game, where giving to rate: each year for about fifteen years now in the process of granting full moral le- one requires taking from another...
...They limit COMING CLEAN ON GAYS IN THE MILITARY the person's stays and turn him or her back into the streets each day...
...The effect on our young people, though, is worth it," says Dorfmann...
...How will soldiers and sailors find family during the last twenty-five years: who are, vast numbers of people...
...Boulter, the wonderful founders of Mary borhoods...
...It remains true that white is right...
...I'll bet he never has ahead on the horizontal plane while showthose who care for them in the success of to worry about one of the other Joint ering, just as they do on the parade ground...
...small shelters...
...I remember that when I saw families in the last twelve years and helped House, the Sisters from Saint Anne's....We Dorothy Day for the last time, she was urg- them break the cycle of poverty...
...Of course, The trouble with this solution is that acCommonweal 9 April 1993: 11 cording to the latest research, 97 percent and the two-parent family...
...The wonderful people at Mary House" mentioned earlier are Bill "Some secretary of housing and urban development you turned out to be...
...turies whenever they went out in public, charities like those sponsored by the arch- The most obvious solution is to provide why can't soldiers do the same for a few diocese here are, because of this, gradu- everyone with top-of-the-line bathing fa- minutes in the shower...
...would still be opposed...
...Contrary to the objection, social norms are, whether this contact was sexually moti- 4. Ditto unmarried cohabitation...
...Right...
...ing the priests who were with us to find couple they assisted had lived in a car for Four years after it was decided upon, homes for the homeless in each parish...
...cent in some poor, black neighborhoods...
...By helping -A with Carrie Simon House they learn how 4 to give...
...ing the era of desegregation...
...example, that robbing banks is an equaladministration has the brains needed to re- (Before someone bites my head off for ly legitimate mode of getting money as duce the deficit and relieve the health-care this last point, let me say that I am as fa- honest hard work, can anyone deny that crisis (and it had better have them), it will miliar as he or she with many examples this belief undermines the legitimacy of also be smart enough to solve the Great of magnificent children raised in single- honest hard work...
...BOX300, GARRISON, NY 10524-0300 sit on a moving chair that would travel through an automatic car wash...
...Colin Powell doesn't have to shower with ing all sailors and soldiers to look straight There is more hope for the homeless and the rest of the guys...
...in the last quarter century-in the direc- delegitimizes whites...
...Then tell me this has nothing that granting this legitimacy is yet anoth- the two-parent family no more reduces their to do with reduced legitimacy of marriage er move-of which there have been many legitimacy than granting equality to blacks and the two-parent family...
...more both cleaner and meaner-most of those Therefore resist...
...there has been one divorce for every two gitimacy to homosexual conduct, and (b) Legitimizing alternatives to marriage and marriages...
...The last listened....We learned...
...Night shelters are better than nothing, of course, but even the best exacerbate the SEARCHING FOR THE SOAP homeless person's difficulties...
...very temporarily from the elements...
...Organized Problem, we'll be able to let gays in...
...Many not subtract one bit from the legitimacy human responsibilities, the duty of parents opponents are convinced (a) that permit- of marriage and the two-parent family...
...This to care for their young...
...maybe each soldier could AND SISTERS OF GRAYM04R, P.O...
...or 5. Acceptance of high rates of out-of- marriage and family are normative instiwas it homoerotic footsies...
...After The success of the Washington Hebrew much...
...The commander ally changing their sponsored temporary cilities, just like the generals have...
...They could grope about with their 2. High divorce rates...
...they return to the same place night after night there is at least a place that is theirs...
...Look at the world of marriage we came up with the perfect solution to one more blow, and a very severe one at and family we have created in the last twenthe shower problem-a solution that not that, against the already battered legitimacy ty-five years...
...But the exception does not whites: True, to say that blacks are equal And once we've solved the Great alter the rule...
...And it takes little imagination to al debate about gays in ble the size of aircraft carriers...
...It may seem a However, as Jacqueline Dorfmann points to enforce a law requiring families to leave small solution to the nation's problem out, Washington Hebrew, a Reform con- shelters after ninety days...
...CONTACT: VOCATION pIRECTQR, (Let's see...
...It is worth remembering that not all the homeless need as much care as do the halfformed, half-educated young women at Carne Simon...
...I am bafof bathers have the soap slip out of their Think of the key steps in this process fled that anyone can be persuaded by such hands at least once in the course of every of relative delegitimizing of marriage and reasoning...
...parent than in single-parent families...
...It numbers 2,000 made homeless by the local joblessness one...
...A man or woman without a fixed address is not likely to qualify for a job...
...And families with homelessness but it is an invaluable gregation, is very large...
...in fact, involved in a zero-sum game...
...It is tion each year plus hours and hours of ded- many volunteer their help...
...But I realize there are people shower...
...wedlock births...
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