Community is not an aggregate
Garvey, John
OF SEVERAL HINDS John Garvey COMMUNITY IS NOT AN AGGREGATE CULTURE WAR AT THE SCHOOL BOARD he debate over family values is, of course, not a debate at all. People invoke the word to mean...
...She borrows a distinction, originally made by Disraeli, between a community and an aggregation...
...A nonjudgmental culture—an indif-ferentist culture....puts desire ahead of interest, because desire can be so readily expressed...
...But occasionally something political happens that reveals a genuine question of values, and shows that some of what gets pulled into the debate over traditional family values does in fact matter deeply...
...We are being asked to accept all "lifestyles" as equally valid, equally worthy of support and praise...
...And the difference is profound...
...Impellizzeri's was an angry speech, but she is onto something important...
...that they have the right— unearned—to set their own standards, or no standards at all...
...Communities work by civility...
...Impellizzeri is critical of "nonethnic, nonracial minorities—self-defined minorities—such as the underclass" who have agendas that have nothing to do with emergence into the surrounding culture...
...The most grievous failure in life is the lack of self-discipline....Self-discipline is not an instinct...
...People like Irene Impellizzeri are being asked to see their own values as mere "lifestyle options," inferior to the desire-based in-differentist culture she criticizes...
...hope is an activity of the spirit...
...People invoke the word to mean something vague— wholesome versus self-indulgence, tradition versus change, a distrust of modernity (and, I suppose, post-modernity...
...I'm afraid she's right, and the kind of outrage her speech provoked almost proves her point...
...That may not seem so pressing to the rich, who have a long way to slide, though not as long a way as they may think...
...or, if possible, it is a kind of repression...
...The adult who tells an adolescent 'You have the right to obey your impulses' is guilty of treachery to the adolescent as well as to the community...
...In May, the New York City Board of Education's vice-president, Irene Impel-lizzeri, addressed a Catholic organization...
...Some of what she had to say about sex education, family values, and the children growing up in New York's poor neighborhoods caused a fierce reaction: sixteen City Council members demanded that she be removed, and Brooklyn's Borough President Howard Golden criticized the speech...
...There is aggregation—the forming of groups...
...which said that, in addition to being taught about condoms and safe sex, students must be told that refraining from sex is by far the safest way to avoid AIDS, and that this instruction must be a prominent part of the mandated instruction...
...This is not even relativism...
...What Impellizzeri said has to be seen against the background of a school system that distributes condoms to students, but was furious when members of the school board voted in favor of a policy "Can you tell me the facts of life, Dad, without imposing your moral standards, that is...
...This does not mean, however, that we should not have any ideal at all, or allow any alternative to be seen as equally valuable...
...but he or she will not even hear chastity mentioned in school, and abortion may not be criticized as wrong, but must be mentioned as an option...
...They are a large factor in explaining the recent turbulent changes in the school system...
...And no doubt some people who agree enthusiastically with Impellizzeri are intolerant, and wouldn't mind a bit of suppression...
...is to accept appetite as a rule of life...
...The most debilitating weakness is to be unable to defer gratification...
...The same system was outraged when some school boards voted not to include the books Heather Has Two Mommies and Daddy's Roommate in the curriculum...
...The idea that a home centered in a man and a woman who live together in love, and love for their children, is more desirable than other alternatives is based on a long experience of family, and the deepest needs of children...
...But if secularism reaches a point where one may not advance any understanding as superior to any other, we have to fight it...
...On June 23 New York Newsday reprinted some of the most controversial excerpts...
...Toward the end of her speech Impellizzeri said, "There seems to be an extraordinary celebration going on around us, a celebration of the momentary, of the barren, of the terminal, of the involuntary, of the gross—a death-culture, in fact...
...The use of the idea by politicians, as if the things that most threaten us could be solved politically, is as empty as most political rhetoric...
...We are, in fact, being asked to accept the idea that chastity is impossible for teen-agers, and indeed for anyone...
...In such a culture, hope is replaced by the arithmetical sum of appetites...
...At home you may tell your teen-ager that chastity is right, or abortion is wrong...
...There are of course perfectly horrible homes based on heterosexual marriages, and some "non-traditional" homes in which there is a lot of love...
...I'd like to quote a few, because Impellizzeri's speech and the reaction to it strike me as much more revealing than the empty rhetoric at the Republican Commonweal 23 October 1992: 7 National Convention, and the empty reaction to it...
...that they are mysteriously able to 'think for themselves': without in fact learning to think—as distinct from feel or want—they will never, never escape from poverty...
...Aggregations get their way by stridency...
...The human mind is so complicated that intelligence and other gifts of the spirit can ac-tually regulate desire—or it can be prostituted to desire...
...Some might not see a problem with any of these, as long as all the adults involved gave their free consent...
...it is learned from adults, sometimes subconsciously, sometimes painfully...
...Communities have consciences...
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...the books were designed to present homosexual couples as equivalent to the traditional family...
...Aggregations have programs...
...But if the children of the poor are taught that they need not be constrained by the social order and its civilities and its prudential demands...
...Should intolerance force us to accept patriarchal polygamy, or homes in which sadism and masochism are the rule, or incestuous marriages...
...A community shares a hope...
...People like Impellizzeri are accused of wanting to repress all gays, of not caring about those who suffer from AIDS, of not respecting minority cultures, etc...
...it is the final triumph of extreme secularism over any traditional understanding...
...The fundamental difference between a community and an aggregation is really the difference between what is in one's interest and what one desires...
...But something much deeper is at stake here...
...Even when learned in childhood, it often falters in adolescence, when desire takes on new forms and an anarchic intensity, and then the young brain is awash with hormones and with the erotic imagery of popular culture...
...Those appetites have made their way into much of our lives in this city...
...Not only that: to question any of this is to risk—or rather to ensure—being called homophobic or intolerant or racist or repressive...
...it has that beet-red infantile immediacy...
...In the city where we work, there is little or no community any more...
...An aggregation simply wants, with brutal urgency...
...The saddest immaturity...
Vol. 119 • October 1992 • No. 18
